Ian On The Red Dot

In an earlier post, I blogged about why arguments with members of the opposite sex tend to last so long. From the same book, I learned from an interview with Victor Johnston how to tell if a girl will choose you as a mate just by looking at her fingers.

So, how to tell if a lady will mate with you? Simple - look at her ‘digit ratio’. The ‘digit ratio’ in women is one or greater than one. When it is one, the length of the index and ring fingers is equal. When it is greater than one, the index finger is longer.

Women change their preferences just prior to ovulation. In what direction does the change happens depends on the amount of testosterone present in the uterus when the girl was a fetus. The greater amount of testosterone present in the uterus will affect how ‘masculine’ a girl is. The more ‘masculine’ she is, the longer the ring finger. The girl with a lower digit ratio tends to be more masculine and will prefer men with prominent, square jaws because that is an indicator of masculinity in men. Such women will want such masculine men for both sporadic and longer-lasting encounters.

If the girl has a shorter ring finger (i.e. higher digit ratio), she will prefer friendlier, gentle men, more commonly known as the nice guys, when she is ovulating. Note, this only happens when she is ovulating or seeking a longer-lasting relationship - the key thing to note is when the chance of being impregnated by a man is high (like in a marriage), such women with higher digit ratio will choose the friendlier, gentle man - the normal guys get their chance. But if such a girl wants a fling, the macho man still gets first rights.

So, normal guys…either way, your girlfriend/wife is going to have sex or already had sex with that guy with the Superman jawline. But hey, you get to play husband as well as the father of her children. Of course, if she times it wrong or the body sends the wrong hormonal signals, they just might not be yours.

I’ve been reading this book titled ‘Mind, Life, and Universe - conversations with great scientist of our time‘. It contains interviews with a bunch of really smart people. The great thing about this book is that it makes science relevant to our lives and not exile it to some esoteric corner of our society. It is a great book and one that I highly recommend everyone to read if they have the time. Actually, you got to make the time to read it.

I found one particular interview with Robert Sapolsky highly interesting because it helped explain why arguments with members of the opposite sex can drag on for so long.

Our limbic system, which is responsible for our emotion and feelings, seems to work faster than the autonomic nervous system. When my girlfriend is angry with me, what happens is that within the limbic system, the part of the brain which deals with emotions decides for her that she is upset. It then tells the rest of the body she is upset - the autonomic nervous system is activated and her heart beats faster, she sweats more.

Now, here is where what William James discovered comes in. He suggests that the brain also takes its cue from the body when deciding what emotions to feel. The brain checks with the body and finds out the heart is racing - the brain infers that the individual is feeling a strong emotion.

So, this is how the loop happens. You make your girlfriend angry. Her brain tells her body to react to the anger. After you apologize, and she accepts it, her brain tells her she is no longer angry, but her body is still in the angry state. You leave the room to go take a piss. During this time, because the autonomic nervous system resets itself to normal state slower than the brain, the rest of the body as opposed to the brain is still angry. The brain checks with the body what is going on and finds out the body is still in angry state, so the brain thinks it must still be angry over something for the body to be angry and so the limbic system kicks in again and now she feels angry all over again.

Here is the thing. On average, the autonomic nervous system for women resets itself slower than that for men.

So now, the argument is finally settled. We know whose fault it is - women’s.

Discovered the ladder theory today via Insane Polygons. Helps explain why some guys just can’t seem to make passionate love with the girls they want to.

I found his other theory about why God is an absentee landlord interesting - God Is Asleep.

Anyway, from his about page on the site, I learned who I am and what I’m called. I too am a recovering Intellectual Whore.

I was being used for their amusement and entertainment while they were busy fucking outlaw bikers. Of course they weren’t interested in me sexually; they were too busy with guys with forearm tattoos. But apparently they still needed some intellectual stimulation. That’s when they would call me with an opening line like “Tell me something interesting.” or some other not-to-subtle line. I recalled the term intellectual whore and applied it to this situation. These women had made me into their intellectual whore. Since then I have dedicated a large part of my life to avoiding this trap, and the various bitches that try to put you in it.

In short, it does not refer to a “smart slut” as it were, but rather to males who are kept around by women for their mental entertainment.

It is 2.16am according to my computer’s clock. I’m alone in the office waiting for some production stuff to happen before I can get to work. Anyway, here is something I heard at a first aid course.

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Instructor: What do you do when a guy comes with a broken arm?

Student: Make sure he doesn’t move his arm so that matters don’t become worse.

Instructor: Nope. You tell him man don’t cry and man don’t feel pain. Tell him to stop being a wimp and throw him a plaster. Remember, whatever a guy comes with, throw him a plaster.

Student: — silence –

Instructor: Now, what do you do when a girl comes.

Student: What is she suffering from?

Instructor: Doesn’t matter. Resuscitation is the first thing you do.

Saw a post over at Yawning Bread where he shared about how males seem to fare better in talent contests.  This was something I noticed too.  The theory I had then was this - Guys naturally tend to support the female contestants.  Girls tend to support the males.  Even if a show might have an equal number of guys and girls following and both a male contestant and female contestant have the same number of fans, the voting numbers are still probably going to be skewed towards female voters.  Why?  Girls bother to take action to show their support.  Guys not so much even if they really think the girl has talent or just plain hot.

Another theory I had was that a male contestant would probably appeal to both sexes while female contestants might appeal mainly to males.  In other words, if a male and female were equally talented and visually appealing and there were the same number of male and female viewers of the contest, a guy would have more chance in poaching the male support of a female contestant versus the female poaching the female support of a male contestant.  Why?  I have no statistics to back this up, but I get the feeling that female viewers in Singapore get threatened by seeing another female who is successful on a contest while male viewers not so much when they see another male doing well.

Not saying that guys are never threatened by the success of another guy or other guys for that matter.  It is just that our zone is smaller.  If you’re not in my immediate ’sphere of influence’ then I won’t care so much (though the sphere extends once our gfs support you …).  Maybe it is because guys tend to think something like this, ‘Yeah.  You may be a good singer, but if I get you onto the soccer court, I’ll dribble around you and score awesome goals.’

Well, I’m not much of a sociologist or psychologist so these are just random theories with nothing to substantiate them.

Maybe someone knows why exactly male contestants tend to do better in Singapore?