Ian On The Red Dot

Going to fire a quick one before I start the day. Today is going to be busy what with SIT coming up. Anyway, I just want to say a quick thing about men not getting it. It is oft lamented by Singaporean women that Singapore men just don’t get it, or more specifically don’t understand them.

When is this comment usually made? When a man fails to meet the expectations of the woman. Are the expectations always unreasonable? I wouldn’t know. But from my experience with Singapore gals, I think Singaporean women have a tendency to have rather high (and unreasonable) expectations. I won’t talk about these expectations here today.

Now, why would women want men to get it? If the reason is so that their expectations can be made, then they are dumb.

Why?

Cos once a man gets a women, he is never going to meet those expectations.

He is going to manage it.

And when a man goes into manage expectations mode, more often than not he plays the gal like a fiddle.

Think about it. Who are the players?

The only way a man can be a player is if he gets women.

Now, you might say, why can’t a man get women and not be a player. Many reasons. But one reason I wager is that once a man gets women, he realizes women aren’t just worth it. Or rather, he realizes that it just ain’t worth it to meet all the expectations of a women just so his own needs can be met.

Yes. Men don’t just live for women. We live for ourselves too. A lot of time our interactions with women is to meet our own needs. Actually, let’s say all the time.

We (man included) like to believe that there is someone who will dedicate and devote their lives to us. We are selfish like that. And stupid like that.

So women, be glad that there are men who don’t get it. Doesn’t mean we won’t be earnest in meeting your expectations. Doesn’t mean we won’t try to be everything you want us to be.

Just don’t lament we don’t get it.

You honestly won’t like it once every man gets it.

Update:Of course, women might say that there are men who really don’t get it. You know what…if you are dating such a man. Loving such a man. Wanting him to change. Accommodating him till he changes. Guess what. He actually gets it. You don’t.