Daphne Maia has expressed a crush on another blogger. A while back, another female blogger expressed her crush for another blogger. People…there is a reason it is called a crush. Not a lift. Not a release.
Anyway, why do I say the end may be near. Because love or rather the development of intense sexual and emotional feelings that resemble lust and love between individuals of a group is something that happens in the latter stages of a group’s lifecycle and usually a precursor to the disintegration or fall of the group’s glory.
Why?
Because love isn’t free and equally distributed even if the hippies say it is. The unequal distribution of attention and love has been argued as one of the reasons why hippie communes didn’t survive.
Note: I have been racking my brain about where I read about the group dynamics of hippie communes. I can’t remember. But if anyone of you do, please do leave a comment. Thanks so much!
It has been a joy to see the Ping.sg community develop and I have been living vicariously, and rather well I might add, by following the group’s progress through the forums, shoutbox and blog postings. This next stage of the group’s growth shouldn’t have come as a surprise to anyone.
But why is love entering the group dynamics such a bad thing? It is bad because it leads to the worse things in human nature especially when it isn’t equally distributed and there isn’t reciprocation.
Every group and its individuals will profess to be different. None ever is.
I’ll speculate that we will be getting this over time:
1. Many girls like the same few guys.
2. Many guys like the same few girls.
3. Girl and Guy like different people.
4. Girl/Guy wonder what’s so special about that another Guy/Girl - especially since that joker always post such crap on her/his blog.
5. Feelings of indignation of not getting enough attention.
6. Feelings of self-pity in examining why never get enough attention.
7. Girl/Guy get attached and break up causing massive headaches to the group in deciding loyalty to which party and apportioning blame. One person inevitably disappears from the group after the breakup.
8. Guy/Girl listens over msn/skype/coffee to Girl/Guy who likes another Guy/Girl and wonder, wtf is wrong with me when spending so much time being here for you, your mind is there with that joker who does not recognize your awesomeness like I do.
9. People drift from the group in the absence of reciprocation.
Simply put, life in the group won’t be so simple and carefree once ‘love’ enters into the picture.
The Age of Innocence is over.
Am I sounding the death knell?
Nah.
Just the bells telling people to get ready for the second act.
Good luck guys.
Daphne Maia | 27-May-08 at 11:27 am | Permalink
huh? what is the point of this entry? haha. ok… why are people taking my entry so seriously? lol. it’s a crush. i admire him, that’s all.
and.. uh. ur speculation is a bit far-fetched.
iantimothy | 27-May-08 at 11:39 am | Permalink
hmmm..the point…a portent of things to come?
I don’t think its far-fetched. I’ve seen enough groups to smell the faint whiff of dark times.
DAMN DRAMA, I AM.
AZ | 27-May-08 at 11:45 am | Permalink
I believe it’s best to keep personal life and private matters away from the internet, especially when one gets famous.
However, if it is just a joke, then doesn’t really matter.
iantimothy | 27-May-08 at 11:47 am | Permalink
Actually, I think it really depends on an individual how comfortable they are with sharing their life.
This post was more about commenting about certain ‘inevitabilities’ of groups.
precious | 27-May-08 at 12:52 pm | Permalink
I have a crush on another blogger too! *mysterious*
Daphne Maia | 27-May-08 at 1:30 pm | Permalink
@iantimothy> yes, damn drama u r.
@precious> dont need to act mysterious lah. we all know tht u have a crush on me.
krisandro | 27-May-08 at 6:29 pm | Permalink
SOme ppl do fall for crap!