Gf and I had a bad day. Totally my fault. She said something and my reaction wasn’t the best possible one. In fact, it is the third worse thing a guy could do. After our phone conversation, I began analyzing why I reacted to what she said and I remembered this story my father shared to me a long time ago.
A girl came home from school one day. Her father greeted her at the door and said to her, “I Love You”. The girl started crying and ran up to her room. The parents were shocked. The father tried to talk to her but the girl wouldn’t let him into the room. So, the mother tried instead. Inside the room, the mother was hugging the girl and consoling her and trying to find out why the daughter was crying.
The daughter said, “Father is going to leave us.”
The mother looked at her, incredulous by the remark, “No, he isn’t. Why did you say that?”
The girl explained, “John said he loved me too, but the next day, I saw him kissing another girl. When I confronted him, he said he was leaving me.”
After a while, in this life, we are all going to meet all sorts of people. Inevitably, some of them, if not most, will disappoint us, hurt us and sadden us. The danger then is that we response to the same cues from different people the same way. In a way, it is a defense mechanism left over from our days when we were still living out on the savannah. You see lion. Lion react certain way. Body instinctively react certain way, getting ready to flight or fight.
It happens with our emotions too. The trick is to master these sort of reflex actions.
Much to learn. Much to control.
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