Someone using the nick of ’superman’ left a comment for my last post and I’m sharing it as a post. I too wished someone had shared this with me when I was younger. But hey, live and learn.
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just came across your blog and thought I share my 2 cents worth. I am reaching my 40s and looking back at my silly self back in army and university days I wished someone could have said this to me, so here it goes.
1) losing a girl during army or even university days is really no big deal. there are better girls out there. really. Men always have the advantage on such matters especially when time is always on our side.
2) even if you do get your dream girl, believe me, you will regret it. because there will always be better ones. take it from all my classmates and friends who have been married over these years.
3) focus on dating and learning how to treat a girl right. it is part of growing up. but focus on learning life skills that will be useful to the real world out there. never commit before 28. for most men, we really don’t know what we want in our lives even when we reached 30.
4) date someone who is not from Singapore and make a comparison. you will realise that the world is so much bigger out there and there are a lot of beautiful women out there.
5) the pressure to conform is strong in Singapore. you go through phases. Need to get a girl friend by 18, a steady before you graduate, a HDB flat before 25, first car by 27 etc. but if you survive it, you find that it is fine without all those stuff. that doesn’t mean you are a loser. you just have different priorities.
6) you got to start thinking about your reservist that is coming up. If you work in private sector, especially in high paying jobs, in the finance, investment bank etc, it works against you regardless what they say. If i were you, I would work abroad or do my postgraduate overseas. you will find that it is difficult to serve any reservist at all once you are abroad.
good luck.
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