Put a bunch of unattached guys together and you’ll most likely hear the phrase “I’m chasing her” at some point.
Why do we use the verb “chase” to describe our courtship of a girl? “Chase” conjures the image that the girl is running away from us and probably running scared. It creates the mental image of a cowboy swinging a lasso above his head, trying to rope the girl and tie her up. To use the word ‘chase’ seems to convery the impression that when we finally do ‘get’ the girl, it is because we have worn her out, exhausted her to the point that resistance is impossible.
Maybe, we should use a new verb - “attract”. “I am trying to attract the girl.”
Is this even important? Maybe. Somehow, I feel that if we start using a different term, then mentally, a switch will be flipped. Instead of focusing on actions that will win the girl’s heart such as sending flowers, constantly instant messaging her (and ending the monologue with ‘you busy is it..talk to u another time den..’ when we know she is actually
ignoring you and most definitely not busy), ’stalking’ her and other ineffective gestures we would start working on the self, preparing the self for couplehood, improving our abilities, honing our gifts, making ourself worthy to be loved.
Hannah | 30-May-07 at 7:53 pm | Permalink
Isn’t it interesting that when you substitute “attract” for “chase”, you have to add another verb - “trying” ?
=)
iantimothy | 30-May-07 at 10:01 pm | Permalink
Wahahaha…..Good one.
Ned stark | 03-Jun-07 at 1:22 am | Permalink
Ian,
The word that is used in my case is “jio”. Anyway since Mr wang has decided to become a self help guru perhaps you can become a relationship guru