Aaron started a really interesting discussion when he wrote a post on scholars and bond breaking.
Firstly, I appreciate Aaron’s analogy. But he is just too polite and so the analogy isn’t complete.
Taking a scholarship and then breaking the bond is like a guy getting a girl that another guy really really likes. The other guy really wants to love her and cherish her forever. The first guy who gets the girl has chased her because A) he thinks he likes her a LOT (but hasn’t considered the long term future only the short term satisfaction) B) he wants to notch her as a conquest since if other guys like her she must be worth having.
So the first guy gets her and then screws her literally and figuratively. Leaves her when something better comes along. But don’t call him a bastard k. I mean, he did break up with her formally, even bothered to do it in person and not over sms. He would only be a bastard ( and I’m making a moral judgment here ) if he had gone with the other girl before formally breaking off with the first one. So while he did consider going with the second one while with the first one, he isn’t a cheat. He was just confused, unsure about the future when they first got together, and he has every right to pursue his own happiness when something better comes along. I mean, he was what, only 18 when he got together with the girl… much too young to have considered what life would have been like with the girl a few years down the road. And don’t be sad for what could have been between guy two and the girl - don’t despair about the possible wonderful relationship that might have blossomed. I mean, the girl did profit from the relationship…oh..the flowers..the rings…she did get something out of it.
I have friends who have broken bonds and have friends who were given opportunities to break their bonds. People in both groups were damn smart ( if not the opportunity to break the bond wouldn’t have materialized …. right? ). One of the person who posted a comment on Aaron’s blog says that those who come back cannot make it ( to paraphrase ). Nonsense. Obviously he doesn’t know that many scholars. I know a good number of them who are up there in terms of results, drive, intelligence…everything that makes them a REAL TOP TALENT ( since people like to emphasize the different between talents and scholars ) who came back to finish their bond. Why? Because to them, in their opinion, it was the right thing to do. And also, because our A Level Econs teacher drilled into us the notion of taking a scholarship to serve our nation. We may have forgotten the econs, but not those lessons…
The people who break bonds fulfill two criteria. They believe in their own self interest beyond anything else, and second they can afford to break the bond. I don’t consider my friends who break their bonds immoral. They have every right to pursue their self interest. But I call BULLSHIT when the reason they give is about all the negative things about Singapore. “Oh Singapore, doesn’t appreciate their talents (i.e. me)..” BULLSHIT ALERT! If Singapore didn’t appreciate you, how the hell did you get the scholarship? They must have seen something in you (though I would question what it was when they awarded the scholarship). “Oh, the environment in Singapore is not challenging.” Ok… maybe a stat board doesn’t sound like the most exciting place, but hey… shouldn’t you have known that when you signed for the scholarship. I mean, what sort of talent were you when you couldn’t even envision the future. A talent with no foresight? Or maybe near sightedness only?
Basically, there are a lot of things a person could say to justify bond breaking, but like my teacher once said, those things are just excuses. The real reason and the only reason is because you believe in “Me.Me. And Me.” Don’t come and point and say what is wrong with Singapore and use that to break the bond. Be a Man. Say why you broke it. Because I’m getting a better deal there and who the F*ck cares about the consequences of me breaking the bond with the scholarship giver. I mean, I paid the money didn’t I. I’m absolved. I fulfilled my end by paying up!
Wrong. You didn’t fulfill your end of the bargain when you took the scholarship because you broke it. The bond breaking fee is the result of the lack of fulfilling it. While the bond is a legal contract, the scholarship isn’t ( in my not humble opinion ). Let’s separate the two. The bond was the contract to protect the scholarship giver in the case you didn’t fulfill the first agreement which is to take the scholarship and come back and somehow contribute to Singapore.
I know some people said that signing the bond doesn’t mean there is some implicit promise of unconditional commitment to the scholarship giver and by extension to Singapore. And that saddens me because I have always had an idealistic view of what it means to be a scholar - that the very act of being (or calling yourself) a scholar means there is an implicit promise of unconditional commitment to Singapore. I guess, I’m just that naive.
Well, I can’t believe people are that naive to think that the money paid solves everything. And I can’t believe that the people who took scholarships didn’t know they were given the opportunity of a life time to be on ” the cover page of Vanity Fair ” and get tons of exposure (and offers and temptations..) and didn’t consider what they would do if the opportunity presented itself. Especially, those real talents who break the bond. But hey, I’m no mind reader.
Anyway, don’t get me wrong. It is perfectly alright to pursue your own self interest. I believe in that. But to deny the consequences of it and use sugar coated justifications or finger pointing blame laying..that’s wrong ( a moral judgment here ..). And its wrong to say that hey, only the Singapore government gets hurt here and who cares about them.
I mean, who paid for the scholarships? The people of Singapore. It is us who got hurt. It is the low income 40 yr old auntie who contributed to that scholarship. It is that uncle who drives the cab even though his bones ache. It is the same auntie and uncle who when 60 yrs old would have needed you oh so bright talent (with the great disdain of all things Singapore) to have come back and serve the nation and maybe made it better.
And please, I don’t buy the argument that if they break their bond to get better opportunities to grow that Singapore would benefit when they come back. First, do they even come back? Ok, maybe we weren’t so forgiving when they broke the bond so there is a bit of bitterness. Next… Did they actually want to come back? Thirdly, even if they did come back, what makes you so sure Singapore will be better of now cos of them having bettered themselves. If they were people who were really self interested,wouldn’t they come back and be the new exploiters. I mean, once a self interested person… always a self interested person? (A bit of fortune-telling with a little moral stone thrown in…).
And yes, there are some things you can never learn in a fast track civil service job. And there is some things you might not learn in a fast track corporate job (which you might have got after breaking a bond) such as honor and integrity.
In any case, I’m glad the people who broke the bond broke it. They should be happier and that’s always a plus. And also, at least now we have separated some of the overtly self-interested people out of the pack. Probably got quite a fair number of overtly self-interested people left among those who returned, but hey, at least we narrowed down the possibility of only self-interested people from reaching the top of our government. (Don’t snigger, I know what some of you are saying..that they are already there…)
Anyway, the real problem is not people who break bonds, but how the hell did we select people who ended up breaking bonds.
A suggestion. Send all potential people to some disaster area and ask them to help out for two weeks. Interview them when they come back and ask them about their experiences.
Those who say,”Oh..it was such a wonderful experience for ME. It opened MY eyes and really made ME grow as a person. I really realized how lucky I am to be in Singapore. I’M so blessed. ”
KICK THEM OUT. LITERALLY.
Those who say, “I hope we somehow managed to make the lives of those people there better.” Consider them.
But since I mentioned it, people are probably already mugging this model answer (in my not so humble opinion).
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As a final note, the reason why this topic is personal, is because I do have friends who broke their bonds. Friends who I trust and respect a lot. Friends who I’m loyal too. And when something like this happens which shakes your faith in them because what they do doesn’t tally with a personal view on morality and you wonder if they could ever honor their word and bond of friendship with you, this something that happens (scholarship bond breaking) triggers a host of mixed reactions. You want to defend your friend. You want to hold on to your view on what is right and wrong and yet consider the gray. You want reconciliation. You want resolution. And you can’t find it. The world isn’t that simple. It doesn’t allow itself to be reduced to easy answers.
And you go to sleep.